Disappointments

16 08 2005

I was cleaning up my office mailbox and dig this one up. Now, if only the
message here will sink into me. I really need it right now…

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Disappointments are part and parcel of life. In this circus of existence, you
cannot have your way all the time. Things change; people change.  Events
and results have an unpredictable and uncontrollable way of happening.

To keep you from being utterly frustrated and dismayed, here are some things
to avoid or at least soften the pangs of great disappointment:

1. Expect the best but be ready for the worst.

When you work hard on something, it’s natural to expect the best results.
And the most glorious rewards. But sometimes things don’t turn out the way you
want them to. To keep from being dreadfully dismayed, expect the best, but at
the same time, psyche yourself up for the worst. Then you’ll be ready for any unexpected turn of events!

2. Give it your best shot.

Much of the frustration that follows a failure is the big disappointment you feel
towards yourself. When you do not try hard enough, you are overcome with
guilt and regret. In whatever you are doing, do your best, give it your best
shot. Then you’ll know you did all you can and you should be proud for trying.

3. Realize that you cannot own people.

We often expect people to act or be a certain way that would be congruous to
how we want them to be. Realize that you do not and can not own people. Each
person has his own mind and the natural right to free will. Give others the
gift of space and freedom. Remember that when you lose someone, whatever you
were expecting was not meant to be.

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 4. Realize that we are just temporary stewards of things.

 When you lose material things, whether they are stolen from you or
gutted  down by a fire, minimize your grief by realizing that we are
just temporary  keepers of what we own. They will finally find their way
to where they were  destined to be. Besides, when you finally go, you
cannot take a single thing  with you.

 5. Never expect anything back.

 People get bitterly disappointed when they don\’t get back what they
give  to others. People always expect (some even demand!) repayment.
This is a  major cause of extreme frustration. When you help someone
(especially
 financially) do not expect anything back. Think of it as a gift of love
that\’s  given freely and completely with no strings attached.

 6. Don\’t pin your life on one person.

 You would be doing yourself a great injustice if you pinned your life
on one  person. No one person should take control, importance or
dominance over  your existence. People come and go in our lives. If you
depend too much on  someone, you will feel so shattered, helpless and
hopeless if you lose him.
 Make sure you can stand on your own two feet. And live your own dreams,
not other people\’s.

 7. Don\’t put all your eggs in one basket.

 To avoid disappointment from losing anything, don\’t put all your eggs
in one  basket. It\’s a good practice to have more than one project
happening so that  when one fails, you have others to look forward to.
Regarding financial  investment, it is wise to diversify. The more
things you have going, the less the  chance of losing it all.

 8. Realize that success is a combination of many factors.

 You do not have full control over the outcome of things. Even with all
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4. Realize that we are just temporary stewards of things.

When you lose material things, whether they are stolen from you or gutted down
by a fire, minimize your grief by realizing that we are just temporary keepers
of what we own. They will finally find their way to where they were destined
to be. Besides, when you finally go, you cannot take a single thing with
you.

5. Never expect anything back.

People get bitterly disappointed when they don’t get back what they give to
others. People always expect (some even demand!) repayment. This is a major
cause of extreme frustration. When you help someone (especially financially) do
not expect anything back. Think of it as a gift of love that’s given
freely and completely with no strings attached.

6. Don’t pin your life on one person.

You would be doing yourself a great injustice if you pinned your life on one person.
No one person should take control, importance or dominance over your
existence. People come and go in our lives. If you depend too much on someone,
you will feel so shattered, helpless and hopeless if you lose him. Make sure
you can stand on your own two feet. And live your own dreams, not other
people’s.

7. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.

To avoid disappointment from losing anything, don’t put all your eggs in one basket.
It’s a good practice to have more than one project happening so that when
one fails, you have others to look forward to. Regarding financial investment,
it is wise to diversify. The more things you have going, the less the chance
of losing it all.

8. Realize that success is a combination of many factors.

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differently from  how you want them to. There are many factors and
variables that determine  how something or an event will turn out. And
that includes the weather!

 9. Realize that you will always get another chance.

 If you don\’t succeed now, there will always be another time. Tell
yourself  that maybe it just isn\’t the right time yet for what you
desire.
Keep in
mind
 that you will always get another chance to get a crack at it. Never
lose hope.
 Hope springs eternal.

 10. Realize that without defeat, victory won\’t be as sweet.

 You have to feel the bitterness of failure to be able to savor the
sweetness  of success. Failures make you strong and powerful. Use them
as a challenge  for more determination to go after your dreams next
time. Analyze why you  failed and learn from your mistakes.

 11. Realize that the universe has its own divine plan.

 Yes indeed, the universe has a divine design. It has its own
unchangeable,  unique plan which may be very different from yours. You
may not understand  it at all for now, but it is something you have to
force yourself to live with.
 Going against the current will just frustrate you. Do what the Zen
masters preach:
 Go with the flow!

 12. When things turn out awry, it\’s not the end of the world.

 The world will not end just because something did not turn out the way
you  expected it to. It will keep on turning even if you cried a bathtub
of tears in your  own little dark corner. So dry your eyes and erase
those disappointments.
Hey,
 Friends! flash on a smile! Tomorrow is another day.

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You do not have full control over the outcome of things. Even with all
the necessary preparations and precautions, things may end up differently
from how you want them to. There are many factors and variables that
determine how something or an event will turn out. And that includes the
weather!

9. Realize that you will always get another chance.

If you don’t succeed now, there will always be another time. Tell yourself that
maybe it just isn’t the right time yet for what you desire. Keep in mind that
you will always get another chance to get a crack at it. Never lose hope. Hope
springs eternal.

10. Realize that without defeat, victory won’t be as sweet.

You have to feel the bitterness of failure to be able to savor the sweetness of
success. Failures make you strong and powerful. Use them as a challenge for
more determination to go after your dreams next time. Analyze why you failed
and learn from your mistakes.

11. Realize that the universe has its own divine plan.

Yes indeed, the universe has a divine design. It has its own unchangeable,
unique plan which may be very different from yours. You may not understand it
at all for now, but it is something you have to force yourself to live with. Going against the current will just frustrate you. Do what the Zen masters preach: Go with the flow!

12. When things turn out awry, it’s not the end of the world.

The world will not end just because something did not turn out the way you expected
it to. It will keep on turning even if you cried a bathtub of tears in your own
little dark corner. So dry your eyes and erase those disappointments.

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God bless you!

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